Each and every one of us has the potential to achieve great things, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the moment. We have an inner strength that drives us forward in the toughest of conditions and can enable us to achieve things we never thought possible.
We often feel that decisions are out of our control, that due to external factors we have no option but to stick with what we’ve got, even if it makes us unhappy. Other people can strive for something better because they aren’t dealing with everything you have on your plate, but you have no other option.
It is true that no one else shares your experience exactly, however there are endless examples of people who have overcome adversity in the most difficult of conditions in order to make a better life for themselves and those who depend on them. These individuals have developed resilience to the blows that life has dealt and have chipped away until the weight on their shoulders has been lifted.
In reality we are often holding ourselves back. A fear of change and the unknown, a risk that seems too great to be worth it, or the embarrassment of admitting that things aren’t as they appear can keep us locked in unhappy places or destructive patterns.
Steps of Change
If you are waiting for a magic wand to solve your problems and put everything right, then you’ll be disappointed. The steps of change take commitment, hard work and dedication. If you have reached that point when you are no longer willing to accept the status quo then you are ready to take action.
The need for change can affect any of us, no matter what our age, income, health, profession or status. We can all find ourselves in a place that we no longer want to be, but with no clear way out. Needing help isn’t a sign of weakness, it is a sign that you will no longer accept your current situation as a given. This in itself takes considerable courage.
The next step is to gather support. It is very difficult to take on the world single-handedly, you need allies. Consider who you can turn to for support. This might be friends or family, but it is often easier to talk with a professional from a support agency. Your Citizen Advice Bureau could be a good place to start, or you may want to talk in confidence to a professional counsellor.
Counselling can take a number of forms, but a commonly used method is called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. This technique is designed to encourage you to find your own answers, tackle the barriers that are holding you back and support you as you take the steps towards change. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is non-judgemental, confidential and designed to help you take the steps of change.
If you know that you would benefit from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Amersham based Cognisant PDC can help. Visit browse our website for further information or call us on: 01494 871638