When we’re young, we tend to have plenty of great plans about the future. We get ideas about the careers we’d like to pursue, the places we’ll visit, where we will live and who with. There can seem no boundaries to what is possible.
As we grown up, we might be fortunate enough to get a good job and start moving up the career ladder. We might find someone who we commit to in a relationship, buy or rent a house, start a family and even head off on an annual holiday. We might be doing exactly what we hoped we would or something completely different, but either way we can appear to have it all.
Some people in this situation will feel happy and content, whilst others will reach a point when they feel stuck in a rut. They might have a career that others dream of, a loving family and seem to have it all, yet feel unfulfilled, lacking enthusiasm and ready for change.
This feeling of being stuck in a rut can affect anyone. There is a sensation that you are simply going through the motions, rather than working towards achieving new and exciting goals. Even things that used to spark passion and excitement fail to hit the spot. Worse of all, it can seem that there is no way out.
Why is it so Hard to Change?
The issue is that when you have job security, family and financial responsibilities, the expectations of others and your own critical voice, taking the steps towards change can seem too great a risk. You can feel that it is easier to stay in a job that no longer challenges you, a negative relationship, a dull routine, because it is too much effort to put an alternative into place.
It is important to realise that when you are feeling stuck in a rut, this is often accompanied by a dip in energy levels and self-confidence, as well as a lack of sleep and general feeling of ill health. So change becomes a giant obstacle to overcome. It can make people feel impulsive and reactive; wanting to jack it all in and head off into the sunset, leaving a trail of destruction in their wake.
What is surprising to many people in this predicament is that small steps can often lead to a significant transformation. Small steps can help you to move forward and gain greater satisfaction with your life. What you need to do is allow yourself time to focus on your priorities and surround yourself with supportive people who will enable you to take the steps.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Whilst you may have supportive friends and family, it can be difficult to admit that you aren’t satisfied with how things are and be taken seriously. At times, the support of a non-biased professional, with whom you can discuss things in confidence, can be highly valuable. A number of tried and tested techniques including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help you to identify what you want to change and how you might go about making changes in way which suits you.
If you feel that you could be helped out of the rut with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Amersham based Cognisant PDC can be contacted. Start making the small steps that will lead you to a more fulfilling and rewarding life.